Can I background check my mother’s new boyfriend?

Can I search the background of my mother’s new boyfriend for free?

Mom met a new guy at church. Church should be a good thing. But, I think he acts creepy when she’s not around. Like he’s a letch or something. How can I find out about this guy? I don’t have much money

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That can be an awkward situation.

Socially, your mom's boyfriend may be a creep, which would not be in public records. But, if he broke the law or interacted with the government, those are public records that you can access for free. The catch about getting public information is that the information is not all in one place.

Criminal Records:
Criminal records are kept in city, county, and state courthouses. USA has 50 states, 3000 counties, and 30,000 cities. Most of them do not share their records. You will need to know where her new boyfriend has been all of his life, so that you can search the right courthouses. The Illinois Youth Soccer website cites this resource that lists the criminal and civil record offices for every state, county, and city: http://backgroundsearch.com

Sex Offenders
At least those are listed in one place by our government at:
www.nsopr.gov/

Marriage Records:
How many times was he married and divorced? Is he still married to someone else?
Marriage and Divorce records are kept by each state. Marriage, divorce, birth, and death records are called “Vital Records.” You can find the Vital Records Office for each state listed at the BackgroundSearch.com

Business and finance:
Is he a tax cheat? Does he have liens and lawsuits against him? That information could be in any of the courthouses listed above.

The Background Search Problem:
Now you see the difficulty in doing a complete background search (background check) on your own. It is a lot of work, and you could miss several places where your mom’s boyfriend has lived and broken the law.

Information Aggregators:
On the Internet, there are information aggregators that specialize in gathering all of that public information. Then, the information aggregator puts it all into one database.

They give some of the background search information away for free, and that is a good place to start. For example, at BackgroundSearch.com you can put in his name and see every city that he lived in. You can repeat that as many times as you like for free.

Now you have a good idea of which city, county, and state courthouses you should research for his information, and you have the list of where they are.

Or you can just purchase a background report from the information aggregator. All of them charge some money for a complete background search (background check), but it will be more complete than any one person can do on their own. It will cover all the right city, counties, and states, and you will get your answers right away. Good companies should show a Sample Report for free so that you know what you are getting.

Back to your mom's boyfriend, I think it happens a lot that girlfriends cannot see what their boyfriends are really like. I guess it's because boyfriends pretend to be so nice when their girlfriend is watching. You have to use your instincts, because your instincts are usually right and that may be the only warning that you will get. If you think something is wrong with him, I agree that you should check it out.