TOPIC: Ever do an online background check on your spouse?
Ever do an online background check on your spouse?
5 years 4 months ago #203
Are they any background checks that that are worth paying for? I found a car registration today from 2001 where my STBX used a different last name and date of birth. I realize that I don't know this man at all. Both names actually come up together on the Internet when I do a search, but I have to pay to find out more info. Who is this man?
Somewhere I have this voice that says, men are not IT, decorating is not It, reputation is not It, money is not It! ....
And yet, there are good reasons that traditional values have persisted for so many generations. Tradition says that Reputation is very important. So many people lie and screw everyone else, that reputation is one way to detect who you can trust versus who is just setting a trap.
Networking is just building a good reputation. Ever hear that you should Network to get a good job.
A good credit rating is just a good reputation, and you need that to get a loan.
And outside of your family, money is the only thing that lasts, and is transportable and usable when you need it.
Even your family cannot be trusted. How many children turn violent on their parents when the kids want to take their parents' money before dear old mom and dad have the good sense to die as soon as their relatives want them to.
Can you really trust you spouse? What are all the divorce forums all about? Ever hear the saying: I'm going to introduce you to your future Ex.
The first two things an ugly divorce is about is kids and money. And Kids = money for child support.
Network for a good job = make a good reputations so you can earn money = networking for money.
Money, money is real and really important. It can even keep you healthy, or lack of it can let you die years earlier.
So run your background check on your dates, spouse, and Ex.
Background Search & record check
includes: Current phone number, address, address history for 30 years, age, birthdates, household members, relatives, associates, property ownership, lawsuits, marriage, divorce, criminal records check, sex offenders, terrorist watch, bankruptcy, tax liens.
Wow, that is a lot of info. It's scary how much data they have on everyone.
Never done a background check on my spouse but lately we’ve been having some serious arguments and I think we may be heading for a divorce. I’m tempted to do a background check now just to see if he lied to me about his past and even about things he might have done while we were together. I don’t want to hurt him; I just want to know the truth. I’m not sure I can trust him 100% - I thought I could but not anymore. What exactly do I have to do to start this?
@OliviaS - A background check is highly recommended before entering any serious relationship whether we’re talking a business one or a personal one. It might sound strange to some since you are effectively checking the other person and not trust him/her but it can save us from a lot of problems down the road. You might be surprised to find a criminal record for a date – something I’ve had happen and it’s best to know about it beforehand.
Ok, so I did a free background search right here on the site and I was shocked to find out that my probably soon to be ex-husband has a criminal record!!! I can’t believe it! I’m really shocked about this. I won’t go into details here and it’s just a relatively minor thing but still, I can’t understand why he didn’t tell me about this. I thought we were completely honest with each other but it seems that wasn’t the case. I am out of words. I don’t know whether to tell him about this or not.