My counselor suggested I get a background check run on my stbxnh. I found some interesting documents last night in the house and now feel that I may need to take her up on her advice. I'd also like to see what tickets, driving accidents, possibly dwi's, etc. he might have. With a baby coming in a few months I'm trying to do all I can to protect her. I don't want to keep the baby from him but given all I've recently found out I think I may have to try and fight to do so for her protection.
Does anyone know how to do these things w/out it costing me a fortune? Is this something the attorney can order?
Also, someone told me to request a psych evaluation to be done on him through the courts. However, could he pass this being a potential sociopath? His ex fiancee said he failed the mental test when he applied a few years ago to the police academy. I also found some scary military videos he ordered a few years ago. I was like OMG! Silent, deadly attack, now I'm living a bit more on edge.
Since you have been threatened, and you know he has mental problems, and likes violent entertainment, the very first thing you should do is to move out so that you are not an available target for his rage or revenge. No matter what it takes, you should move out. Go live with mom, a friend, or a women's shelter. Every big city has shelters and Christian charitable organizations to help women in your situation.
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. Once you move out, then you can prevent him from entering your new residence. He will have to start a court case to win visitation rights to the child. The court will appoint a \"Guardian Ad Litem,\" which is an independent person that is qualified to tell the court what is in the best interest of the child. The court will order a psychiatric evaluation on both parents. That consists of a bunch of multiple choice questions, which ask you the same simple things many different times. The many answers to the same question are supposed to keep a person from faking out the test. Also, you will be interviewed by the psychiatrist, and you will have a chance to tell your side of the story, and warn them about the father's history of mental problem and threats.
You can also call the police if he threatens you, and especially if he hits you. The police are required to arrest the aggressor if there has been any physical violence such as hitting, pushing, squeezing, bruising, etc. For example, if he will not let you leave the house even one time that you want to leave, then he has committed a crime called “false imprisonment.” If he makes you go anyplace that you do not want to go, even just to another room, then he committed the crime of kidnapping. Anytime that happens, you should call the police, and then get a protection order against him.
Protection orders are cheap or free, and easy. Just go down local court house, and go to the “clerk of courts” office. They will be very helpful and they will have simple forms for you to fill out to start the process. The courts know that they should help you with the process, because it is important to protect peoples’ lives. You should be given a temporary protection order, immediately, that will make it a crime for him to come near you. Then, in about 2 weeks there will be a hearing to see if the protection order should be continued. You can just show up and explain what happened. If you ever called the police on him, then get a copy of the police report and take it to the court hearing for the protection order. Take a friend along as a witness. Be sure to tell your friend every time that he threatens you or does bad things. That way your friend will be a knowledgeable witness. Even if your friend did not actually see what happened, the court will find it helpful that your friend witnessed your concern and heard your tell about events soon after they happened.