Tips and Articles for Parents

Building the Foundation for a Healthy Teen & Parent Relationship

Building a good foundation increases the potential for a good relationship.

Do's And Don'ts For Parents With Teenagers

If only it was this simple. Here are some effective tips for dealing with your teenage

DO . . .

  • Acknowledge appropriate or desirable behavior with praise or rewards.
  • Model the type of behavior you want from your teenager. If you want honest expressions of feelings, you must do the same.
  • Be consistent with rule setting.
  • Acknowledge your mistakes. Your teen needs to know that you recognize that you make mistakes and are willing to take responsibility or them.
  • Regularly ask your teenager how her day was and how she is feeling. It will open up communication and let her know that you are available to listen when she is having a problem, or when things are going great!
  • Use “active listening” with your teenager. Pay careful attention to the emotion behind the message and try to determine what your teenager said by rephrasing it into your own words.
  • Give undivided attention when your teenager wants you.
  • Compliment your child when he makes an effort to look nice and take pride in his appearance.

 

DON’T . . .

  • Criticize every little thing your teenager does “wrong.” Remember that everyone makes mistakes and that your child does “good” things sometimes, too.
  • Say one thing and do another (i.e., you are not teaching honesty, when you say “If that’s ______ at the door/on the phone, say I’m not home.”)
  • Change your mind several times about rules. If you are inconsistent, your teenager will learn how to easily manipulate you.
  • Ignore or deny your mistakes. Your teenager will recognize this behavior and may model himself after it. Also, it encourages lack of responsibility.

Ignore your teenager’s moods. Although teenagers are moody by nature, ignoring any behavior associated with moodiness, withdrawing, or major changes in behavior may be ignoring a significant problem in the life of your teenager.

 

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UCAN Discussion Guide

Print out this guide and this grade sheet and encourage your youth to fill them out and discuss their responses with you. You can foster a dialogue between teens and adults about issues that are of importance to both groups. We have included a blank grade sheet for use with your children, students and youth organizations. Adults are also welcome to grade themselves.

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